I was once in a relationship with someone who told me I “didn’t have the face” for short hair.
She told my friends and me that she was the prettier one in the relationship.
And after we had built three businesses together, she told me that I didn’t deserve the title of Co-Founder.
You might be saying, “Why on earth would you date such an asshole! You must have gotten rid of her after she showed her true colors.”
But I didn’t. In fact, I got engaged to her.
Why? I didn’t think I could do any better. I didn’t feel worthy.
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We need to talk about worthiness.
You know worthiness, right? It’s that feeling of being good enough. Feeling that you deserve to take up space.
We are all continuously exposed to messages that say we’re unworthy. We internalize these messages whether we want to or not, and they get lodged deep in our psyche.
Then those messages of unworthiness show up everywhere.
They make us think we need to lose 15 lbs before we look good enough.
They keep us from pushing for promotions or salary increases.
They keep us in bad relationships.
This struggle for worthiness also shows up in your business. It’s keeping you small, and it’s keeping you broke.
It takes anything you do to get new clients, and makes it feel salesy. Note that I didn’t say – It makes it salesy. It makes it feel salesy.
It makes us say, “I need to follow up but I don’t want to be annoying.”
It says, “There’s no way I can’t charge this much. Let me reduce that a bit.”
It says, “I don’t want my client to feel like I’m taking advantage of them.”
If we’re going to talk about getting new clients, then we have to take a close look at worthiness.
It’s why I spend a full ⅓ of my SIGNED program on the elements of worthiness, shining a light on each so that you can build authentic, lasting confidence.
Because I can teach you how to raise your prices six ways from Sunday, but if you don’t think you deserve it, nothing I say will work.
If any of this resonated with you, ask yourself: Where is worthiness showing up in my life? Where is it showing up in my business?
And most important: Am I interested in making a change?
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So, what happened to that relationship? We called off the wedding three weeks before the date. Best decision ever.
And after taking time to fall in love with myself, I found my sense of self-worth. And I met my incredible, loving wife, who sees my worthiness too. (If you’re interested, you can see our wedding featured on the hotel’s website).
To your success,
Leah
She told my friends and me that she was the prettier one in the relationship.
And after we had built three businesses together, she told me that I didn’t deserve the title of Co-Founder.
You might be saying, “Why on earth would you date such an asshole! You must have gotten rid of her after she showed her true colors.”
But I didn’t. In fact, I got engaged to her.
Why? I didn’t think I could do any better. I didn’t feel worthy.
—
We need to talk about worthiness.
You know worthiness, right? It’s that feeling of being good enough. Feeling that you deserve to take up space.
We are all continuously exposed to messages that say we’re unworthy. We internalize these messages whether we want to or not, and they get lodged deep in our psyche.
Then those messages of unworthiness show up everywhere.
They make us think we need to lose 15 lbs before we look good enough.
They keep us from pushing for promotions or salary increases.
They keep us in bad relationships.
This struggle for worthiness also shows up in your business. It’s keeping you small, and it’s keeping you broke.
It takes anything you do to get new clients, and makes it feel salesy. Note that I didn’t say – It makes it salesy. It makes it feel salesy.
It makes us say, “I need to follow up but I don’t want to be annoying.”
It says, “There’s no way I can’t charge this much. Let me reduce that a bit.”
It says, “I don’t want my client to feel like I’m taking advantage of them.”
If we’re going to talk about getting new clients, then we have to take a close look at worthiness.
It’s why I spend a full ⅓ of my SIGNED program on the elements of worthiness, shining a light on each so that you can build authentic, lasting confidence.
Because I can teach you how to raise your prices six ways from Sunday, but if you don’t think you deserve it, nothing I say will work.
If any of this resonated with you, ask yourself: Where is worthiness showing up in my life? Where is it showing up in my business?
And most important: Am I interested in making a change?
—
So, what happened to that relationship? We called off the wedding three weeks before the date. Best decision ever.
And after taking time to fall in love with myself, I found my sense of self-worth. And I met my incredible, loving wife, who sees my worthiness too. (If you’re interested, you can see our wedding featured on the hotel’s website).
To your success,
Leah
P.S. Whenever you’re ready, here are three ways I can help you.
1. Join the free Smart Gets Paid Group and connect with women entrepreneurs who are learning how to get clients too.This is my new Facebook community where badass women like you learn how to get the clients they want, without feeling salesy. Click here to join.2. Learn how to get new clients without feeling salesy, in 10 weeksIf getting new clients is on your to-do list, but you’re not sure where to start, I can help. You’ll learn step-by-step how to get the clients you want, without feeling salesy. And you’ll get the support you need to put learning into practice in your business. Just reply to this email and put “Clients” in the subject line and I’ll get you the details.3. Work with me privatelyIf you’d like to work directly with me to learn how to sell, get paid more, and get the clients you really want, just reply to this message and put “Private” in the subject line. Tell me a little about your business and what you’re struggling with when it comes to selling, and I’ll get you all the details.