How do I choose my ideal client?

Direct Answer

Choose backward. Look at the clients who went well, name what they had in common, and turn that into a short list of markers you can recognize on a first call. Skip the demographics. Then add the one requirement I never let a client drop: my ideal client can pay my fee.

Leah Neaderthal

Leah Neaderthal

Founder, Smart Gets Paid

Best Move

List the clients you'd take again tomorrow, and write down what those clients had in common.

Why It Works

Your own past work holds better evidence about fit than any amount of market research does.

Next Step

Write two lists this week: the markers of a great client, and the markers of a wrong one.

What you need to know

You would know an ideal client if you saw one.

Leah Neaderthal, Smart Gets Paid

Where do I start if I've worked with all kinds of clients?

Start with the clients you already had, because a mixed history is evidence you can use. Go through the last two or three years and sort every engagement into work you'd take again tomorrow and work you wouldn't. The pattern in the first pile is your starting point.

That's the route I took myself, and it took three passes:

  1. I began with small business owners, and I got jewelry designers, people selling leggings to their neighbors, coaches, and consultants. Some of them I couldn't help.
  2. I narrowed to women coaches and consultants, which was better and still wrong, because selling to individuals needs different marketing from selling into a company.
  3. I landed on women consultants in the Messy Middle, once I noticed the thing my best clients shared: if your sales process involves conversations and a proposal, you're my person.

Nobody handed me that on a worksheet. Each version came from working with the wrong people for a while and paying attention (I walk through the whole sequence in my Smart Gets Paid episode "How I figured out my niche"). Your mixed client history is the same raw material, and you've already done the expensive part.

What should I be looking at besides industry and company size?

Look at where your client is now and where they want to be, which tells you more than any demographic profile does. Demographics describe a person. Situations tell you what they'll say yes to.

Matt Lerner, formerly of PayPal, made this point well. He spent a million dollars on a segmentation study that produced personas scored for risk tolerance and price sensitivity, then realized none of it would help his marketing.

His contrast is the useful part. Knowing that "Tammy is a 39 y/o divorced mother of 2, from Atlanta, she works in compliance, earns $58K/yr" tells you nothing you can act on. Knowing that "Tammy is on the sweltering hot beach with two kids, they're getting hungry, and one of them has to pee" tells you to sell air conditioning and a kids' menu.

So I have my clients answer four questions about the person they want to work with:

The questionWhen it lives
What are their frustrations?Now. The problems happening today
What are their fears?Future. What they're afraid of if this stays unsolved
What are their wants?Now. What they want in place
What are their aspirations?Future. What they hope happens once they get it

Answer those four and you can write messaging, build offers, and price the work, because you know what your client worries about at eleven at night.

How will I know an ideal client when I see one?

You'll know because you'll have written down the markers in advance, which is the whole point of the exercise. A marker is a condition that has to be true for the work to succeed, and it's usually something concrete you could point at.

Two real examples from my clients

  • One does copywriting for insurance companies and came to me working with agencies of every size. Her marker turned out to be that at least one or two people had to be doing marketing. In a smaller agency where the owner handled marketing too, nothing she wrote ever got used.
  • Another does equity work inside organizations. Her marker was that they had to have started already. Without existing buy-in, she and her team couldn't succeed no matter how good the work was.

Notice that neither marker is an industry or a headcount. Both describe what has to be in place for the work to land, which is also the answer when a client asks for industry experience you don't have.

Write two lists. The markers of a client you can do great work for, and the markers that tell you this one is wrong for you. My own second list includes people selling digital products or group programs, anyone too early to know they need a strategy, and anyone looking for a silver bullet who isn't willing to do the work. The second list will save you more time than the first one.

What if I choose wrong?

You will choose wrong, at least partly, and the choice is built to be revised. I tell my clients we're putting a stake in the ground so the right people can find us, and a stake is something you can pull up and move.

Why the revision is the point

Every consultant with a clear focus arrived there by being wrong in public for a while. One of my clients did great communications work for nonprofits and eventually noticed she loved working with Jewish nonprofits most, because that work was close to her heart. She said so, changed her profile, and became the go-to marketing person for them.

Another worked with companies of every size and realized her best work happened inside large, complex firms, so that's who she speaks to now.

Neither of them knew that on day one. They found out by choosing, working, and watching what happened. This is why I call it choosing your future instead of figuring out your niche: you're deciding who you want to help most, and then you go and get seen by them.

One thing you should not do is leave the choice open while you think about it. An unmade choice keeps you taking what happens to come your way, which is the situation you're trying to leave.

Leah's take

Most of the women I work with come from marketing, communications, or another field that runs on data, so their instinct is to research this. They want a segmentation. They want to be sure before they commit.

I understand it, and it's the wrong tool. Your ideal client isn't waiting in a dataset to be discovered. You choose her, the same way you choose which conference to speak at or which service to stop offering. Up to now you've mostly been responding to whoever came your way. This is the moment you get to say how you want things to be.

Two things make the choice easier than it looks. It's version one, so being wrong costs you a revision rather than a year. And one criterion settles a surprising number of hard cases, which is that your ideal client can pay your fee. Not that they need you badly. That they can pay.

Then write it down as a picture rather than a category. They look like this. They'll say things like this. They'll be in this specific moment. And I'll know they're wrong for me if I hear these other things instead. That description is what makes everything downstream possible, including what you charge.

More questions about this topic

Is my ideal client the same thing as my niche?

In my method they're the same move, so don't spend time separating them. A niche is usually described as a market and an ideal client as a person, and both come out of the same decision about who you want to help most. Choose the client, in detail, and you have described the niche at the same time.

How specific is specific enough?

Specific enough that someone reading it knows immediately whether it means them. "Nonprofits" fails that test, because a two-person foundation and a national organization share almost nothing. "Nonprofits with a development team of three or more who have just lost a major funder" passes it. Aim for the level where a wrong-fit client rules herself out.

Should I choose based on the work I enjoy or the work that pays?

Both, and they overlap more than people expect. Start from the clients who lit you up, because you do better work for them and better work sells itself. Then apply the fee criterion, which removes the candidates you couldn't build a business on. What's left is the honest intersection, and it's rarely as small as women fear.

Do I need to interview clients before I can choose?

No, and waiting for interviews is a common way to stall for six months. You've had conversations for years and you remember what your clients complained about. Take an educated guess, write it down, and let real conversations correct it. If you truly have no history to draw on, go where those people talk to each other and read how they describe the problem.

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Leah Neaderthal

Leah Neaderthal

Leah Neaderthal is the founder of Smart Gets Paid, where she has helped hundreds of women consultants attract more of the clients they want and get paid more for their work. For more than a decade, she has taught women consultants how to bring in clients on purpose and get paid more for their value, through her program, The Academy. She's also the host of The Smart Gets Paid podcast. Learn more at smartgetspaid.com.

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